i found my cousin crying. i guess that’s normal because she’s just 17 and she’s already pregnant. she’s crying so hard and sorta victimizing herself… and regretting everything. her future’s already ruined and she’ll have a hard time finding someone who will love her and accept her… someone who won’t take this against her whatever happens. those were the things she told me. sure i know exactly what to say and how to say it but i didn’t say anything because i know there’s a big possibility that she won’t believe me. maybe it’s better to let her drown herself in whatever it is that she’s feeling right now. who knows it might actually help her later on.

on a personal note, yes, it’s normal to feel and think that way. but i just kinda think things are still premature to conclude that her situation will deprive her in having a bright future and a happy heart. yes, it may happen to her. there’s always that possibility, and we cannot deny that. however, the way i see the situation, by the time that she’ll be in her early or mid 20’s, being a young single mom won’t be a big deal anymore. see, in the present time, being pregnant at an early age are not really new anymore. sure, you’ll be surprised if this happens to your friend, sister, cousin, or someone you know but if you’ll really try to look deeply in the situation, it’s not that big a deal anymore. in fact, it’s becoming a “pseudo-trend” already. since that is the case, pregnancy at an early age doesn’t give other people the basis to judge young mommies anymore since it’s already rampant nowadays. so what do i want to point out here? simple. since, it’s rampant already, one of the advantages that the situation created is that more people (friends, family, and relatives) of these young mommies already have a wide understanding of the situation. they know better now – that when a young girl gets pregnant, it doesn’t mean that she’s malandi, or bitchy, cheap, walang hiya sa magulang, and etc.

another point. i don’t think it’s also true that she’ll be having a hard time finding a guy who would lover her and would actually want to be with her. why? it’s because i don’t think that guys are shallow and judgmental; there are some who are like that though. however, generally, i think guys are very understanding and accepting especially if they really love you. no matter how modern the generation is right now, i think that there are still guys who are really sincere and who believes in forever. sure, having a baby may be an issue at first, especially with the guy’s immediate family but it depends to the guy (assuming that they can’t get the blessing of the guy’s family) but in the core of everything, it will all boil down to one thing – it’s not about getting a blessing from the people around you. it’s about you two, wanting to be together. that’s all that matters anyway. *if a guy can’t love you for who you are, then maybe, he’s love is not true after all.

being a young mom only tells a fraction of their character. and for me, what it shows is that they were strong enough to keep the baby and matured enough because they know that babies should not be blamed.
it would be so easy to get rid of the baby if they wanted to but see, at a young age, they made a sacrifice and that is to move fas forward in life – from their teenage life, leaving it altogether with the opportunities that comes with it, to the real life where nothing seems to be very easy.

so to all the young moms out there, i salute you and admire your strength. it’s a very good feel to know that despite your young age, you already know that babies are blessings and not punishments for you. ♥